Everybody Hurts


Have that REM song in your head now?  Eh, you are probably too young to remember that song.

Today’s theme is that everybody has stuff.  Ironically, this was my facebook post on August 30, a mere 8 days before my world was rocked:

“Everybody has something you don’t know about that they are struggling with. A man’s mother just passed away, an older gentleman who is recovering from a heart attack that could have killed him is out walking little shuffle steps to get stronger, a teen’s mom just got diagnosed with cancer. Be kind, give compliments and help generously.”

I wrote that because I knew those three people personally, and it helped me not sweat the small stuff knowing that other people were dealing with really serious issues.

I have heard from many of you that knowing what Wes is going through has put a different perspective on things for you.  It has helped you not get so upset about the things that really won’t matter in the end.  That is just another thing that has astounded me about having all of you along on this journey with us, that Wes’ story could affect you so profoundly.

I have also heard of BIG issues you have going on, but then you follow it by saying “it’s nothing compared to your child having cancer”.  That is not true.  Please, let yourself be hurt, angry, energized to enact change in your life.  Please don’t minimize the things that are happening in your life because we are hurting.  Everybody hurts.

On the flip side, please don’t be afraid to share your happy times with us too.   There are going to be tough times on this journey.  Not every day is going to be a happy day.  We will celebrate all of the good days for Wes.  And when we have a bad day, we will call on you to be happy for us.  I know, that sounds strange.  What I mean by “be happy for us” is that we will need you to go out into the world and be happy, so that we can live vicariously through your happiness.  And so that positive energy continues to be created and sent into the world.

As Jerry Springer says – “until next time, take care of yourselves and each other”.

On a Wes update – I have had to admit this week that Wes is starting to lose his hair.  It will be so strange to see him bald, because he was born with all this hair!  I wanted to shave it into a mohawk and have fun with it before he loses it, but Jake reminded me that Wes is a squirmy 8 month old and wished me luck on trying to shave his head.  So for now I will just spike it up (with all natural hair products of course)!  Here is a pic of his hair yesterday:


About grabafriend

I am 34, a mother of one sweet little 6 1/2 month old baby boy, wife of a social worker, trainer/walker/provider for 2 wonderful dogs, volunteer foster home for a Min Pin Rescue (www.minpinrescue.org), co-owner of two doggie daycares in Madison WI (www.thedoghaus.biz), and part owner in a giant behemoth of a pontoon boat. Yep, think that's all the labels I can affix to myself. I am blogging about my journey to get in the best shape of my life from 9/1/12 to 10/1/13, and bring my friends along for the ride by asking them to pick a month and focus on some healthy activity with me.

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