Let’s Hear It For The Boy


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Let’s hear it for the boy
Let’s give the boy a hand
Let’s hear it for my baby
You know you gotta understand

My baby may not be rich
He’s watching every dime
But he loves me, loves me, loves me
We always have a real good time

And maybe he sings off-key
But that’s all right by me, yeah
Cause what he does, he does so well
Makes me wanna yell

Let’s hear it for the boy
Oh, let’s give the boy a hand
Let’s hear it for my baby
You know you gotta understand

Cause every time he pulls me near
I just wanna cheer

Let’s hear it for the boy
Oh, let’s give the boy a hand
Let’s hear it for my baby
You know you gotta understand

Let’s hear it for my baby
Let’s hear it for my baby
Let’s hear it for the boy
I’m your biggest fan
Let’s hear it for the boy
Just watch my baby dance
Let’s hear it for the boy
Oh he’s my dancing man

Let’s hear it for the boy
C’mon and clap your hands
Let’s hear it for the boy
Yeah watch my baby dance
I’m your biggest fan

This song is so appropriate for my little man!  He loves to clap, he craves music so much that he will dance a little jig to my phone ringing, and we are celebrating that he is done with chemo and he just turned one year old!

Of course when your baby has a birthday, you reminisce about the past year and their birth story and you spend time imagining what the upcoming year may bring.  And boy does the time fly.  When Wes was born, so began the worrying that many first-time parents go through.  Honestly my biggest concern was getting him to his one year birthday so that his risk of SIDS dropped dramatically.  Hah!  Funny how the things you worry about turn out to be the things that never happen, and it’s the things that blindside you that cause the biggest problems.

When we began Wes’ cancer battle and we were told he would have chemo for 5 months, I thought 5 months was such a long time.  But it really has flown by.  Perhaps I was in shock for some of it so that made it seem to go by faster, but none the less it feels like much less than 5 months has gone by.  It was 5 months ago today that we sat in room 17 on the 3rd floor of the AFCH and were told he had cancer in both eyes and would need to start chemo in just a few short days.

On Wes’ birthday two weeks ago, he had to go to the hospital for his monthly sedated eye exam.  He gets completely put to sleep for this procedure, so we were on the 3rd floor again.  As they walked us back to our room, it seemed like they were headed for room 17 and I nearly had a panic attack.  There is no way I will ever be able to step foot in that room again.  I don’t care if I cause a scene or make everyone around me think I’m crazy, it’s not happening.  But then the nurse kept walking and we ended up in room 21.  Whew.

Wes’ Aunt Nikki and grandma Mary made the occasion as happy as they could – there were birthday signs taped up all over his room, balloons, gifts, and cupcakes for the hospital staff.  His Aunt Stacy had bought him a “My First Birthday” onesie that he wore that day, and the hospital staff let him wear that into the operating room instead of a hospital gown!  The hospital staff all signed a birthday card for Wes, and everyone wished him a happy birthday as they saw him.

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After his procedure we went to Red Robin where Wes wore his glasses for the first time!  The staff there brought him balloons and sang to him.  We ate most of his birthday sundae, but by the time we left his lips were stained orange from the frosting on his birthday cupcake.

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Last week Wes completed his final round of chemo.  It scares me to say “final”.  I feel like I have to choose my words so carefully.  What if it’s not his final round of chemo ever?  What if this cancer comes back?  What if he gets another cancer later in life and has to get chemo again?  I am not crazy for worrying about these things – they are definitely things that can happen, and have happened to other kids with this type of cancer.  My husband and mother-in-law assure me the worrying will lessen with time.  I sure hope so.  Did you know there is a term for the anxiety that comes with diagnostic tests after cancer treatment?  Scan-xiety.

The hospital staff sang “Happy End of Chemotherapy” to Wes and brought him a certificate signed by all of them, a scarf, a toy, and a big cake to celebrate.  We told the staff that we liked them as people and caregivers for Wes, but we are happy to see much less of them in the future.

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As my mom and mother-in-law and I sat around Wes’ hospital room those two days of his final chemo treatment, we talked a lot about the last 5 months. Here’s what I know.  I recognize that we are fortunate Wes has this particular kind of cancer, because other types of cancer come with a higher mortality rate and lengthier treatment.  If it wasn’t for Wes’ diagnosis, my mom would not have been able to spend as much time with him over the last 6 months (her work gave her special exceptions to take the time off to be with us during his treatments even though they weren’t generally letting people take vacation days).  Wes’ diagnosis has brought my mother-in-law and I extremely close.  And I have been able to spend the last 5 months at home with my sweet, sweet boy.  These are not examples of finding the silver lining, these are things I am truly and deeply grateful for.

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About grabafriend

I am 34, a mother of one sweet little 6 1/2 month old baby boy, wife of a social worker, trainer/walker/provider for 2 wonderful dogs, volunteer foster home for a Min Pin Rescue (www.minpinrescue.org), co-owner of two doggie daycares in Madison WI (www.thedoghaus.biz), and part owner in a giant behemoth of a pontoon boat. Yep, think that's all the labels I can affix to myself. I am blogging about my journey to get in the best shape of my life from 9/1/12 to 10/1/13, and bring my friends along for the ride by asking them to pick a month and focus on some healthy activity with me.

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  1. Thank you for sharing your story,I have cried with you and laughed with you! You have an amazing strong family and I am so happy that all has went well for you all! And may God bless you all and keep you all strong and well<3

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